The impossible
At one point, human kind believed it was impossible to reach the moon. For generations, the greatest of Western civilization understood the world to be a single plane, with only a fools chance to trespass the boundaries of the unforgiving, beast infested seas. A time even existed when people used to think dogs were the boys and cats were the girls and they had babies together, like how cows were the mommies and horses were the daddies. Well, that last one might have been me when I was three, but at least I was thinking about things. And what was I thinking about? Sex.
Yes, that's right even at a young age, sexuality was something to be displayed, exhibited as physical traits, patterns for behavior. The strong physical difference between a cat and a dog was not to be understood as an expression of their distinct genomes; but, rather, it was the expression of their distinct, expressed sexuality. I guess fighting like cats and dogs was just how I understood relationships between couples at the time, and maybe for a long time after, but that's moving away from the point. Point is: sexuality is a definite part of an individual's identity.
If you're Mormon go read the Proclamation on the Family. It talks about sexuality as a part of the soul, not just a portion of this accursed rock that weighs down our ever-so-lofty spirit for the span of mortality (a statement to be understood facetiously). Actually, at this point, if you're Mormon you should also read the chapter in Judith Butler's Gender Trouble about performativity, maybe chapter four. Anyway, the point is, be who you are in every sense of yourself. Just because you may not be engaging in sexual activity for a given period of your life doesn't mean you should not express your sexuality. Even more importantly, just because you don't have someone banging down your door, asking you to be a sexual being doesn't mean you should hold it in. The sexual energy is a healthy part of your overall energy. For a body to be healthy, all of the energies should be flowing. That's what yoga and chakras are about. But don't just save up your chakras for yoga; let them flow into what you say, into what you think, into what you create, into what you believe. You have healthy intuitions, intuitions that--combined with the wisdom of mistakes--will lead you to accomplish great things, all according to and inline with gospel principles. You are greater when you let yourself be you than when you hold yourself back from acting because it goes against convention.
Sexuality does not mean wearing a certain kind of outfit. It doesn't not mean flirting or speaking in vulgar expressions. Sexuality in its best Freudian sense is pure positive energy, energy that you use to be productive and creative, and, at times, procreative. It is not something you need to hide or to hoard. It is the kind of energy that flows strongest and brightest when it is shared in positive, healthy, principled ways. Only then does it bring happiness, in a relationship or out of a relationship. Imagine that you are a bee. You are a bee and you are gathering lots of pollen. What do you do with this pollen? Well, you feel constrained to take it too the hive and assist in making honey with it. Yet, you are scared that your pollen isn't as good as others' pollen; so, you don't take it. Or, you think, I'm only going to put in the pollen when everyone sees me do it. Even worse, you take the pollen there but because you think you should only be taking in pollen from field flowers are pollinating, you drop off the little bit of pollen you could find, discretely, with shame. Your instincts had told you to gather the abundant pollen from the apple trees, but you felt awkward about it. You only saw the other bees buzzing through the field. It must be wrong to pick up from the orchard. Ah, what an opportunity you missed. You could have given something unique, important, and rich to the mix. Sometimes a regular situation calls for sexual energy just as much as a sexual situation. Sexuality is an intrinsic part of what makes us human. It is the element that combines our sensitivity toward others with our drive for action. In a world where force and structure are all too often the impetus for action sexual energy calls for direct, principled action based on desire, will, love. If anything defines the human experience in mortality in physical terms, it is sexuality and its attendant energy. We are here to use that energy for good. Not just when we are wedded, not just when we're makin' babi's, but right now, in the everyday run of life. When you hold back from being yourself because you are afraid someone will judge you or because you are being selfish and don't want to share yourself (I don't want to waste my energy with this person), you are actually moving away from light and God and you are holding back person-to-person chemical energy,which has as its result negative effects on you, the individual. You're hurting yourself.
The question is, then, of all of the impossible circumstances we can be in, what is more impossible than finding a faithful member of orthodoxy with healthy, expressed sexual energy? Where are the devout cats and dogs? In a world where nearly every sign of sexuality is stigmatized--especially by a socially conceived white-washing code of honor--in such a way as to negatively paint sexuality as a whole and not merely warn against the more garish, pleasure-seeking forms, what chance is there to find a person who acts out his or her sexuality in healthy ways: conversation, confidence, honesty, authenticity. Too frequently, it seems that the relationships and interactions that belong to the proper domain of sexuality slide a slippery, icky slope into games, routines, conceits, and insecure maneuvers based on image, power, and expectations rather than original expressions based in sincerity and love. And though the question is not on sexual activity, is it possible to find a Christian who is faithful as a missionary but not so fixed in the bedroom? Yes, playfulness and creativity can be reconciled with orthodoxy and religion. Lots of people do it every day. It may not be common knowledge simply because sexuality is a sacred enterprise, not something to be touted or sold for world recognition.
In the end, the answer is 'yes, it is possible'--just like landing on the moon or sailing around the world, or creating a dog-cat mix (Thank you Nickelodeon). We must be aware of our weaknesses in order to overcome them in the end. If our weakness tends us toward dogmatism and parochialism, we must strive to keep our minds open, give ourselves room to act. As a person gives himself or herself this room to act on an individual basis, he or she will be happier and more able to allow others room to act as well. We are filled with good desires, and our greatest task--in secular, boiled down terms--is to encourage the good--in others and in oneself--to grow. Call it 'light'. Call it 'Christ'. Call it 'chakras'. Call it 'peace'. If the good is getting bigger, then God can be found. Sex is a part of making that happen.
And now because I know that this is all perhaps a little too Freudian for a number of you, I will state in this postscript that, yes, I know he has been 'disproved' a million times over. You can disprove anyone as much as you want: if he stirred things up as much as he did, he must be good for something. We can have a legitimate debate about that in emails if you wish to send such a reply. To be on the safe side, as far as comments go, I am disabling them.
Maybe what I'm really saying here is assert yourself. Be happy in life by going out and making it happen. Take a stand. Express interest in life and others on all levels: practically and romantically, spiritually and physically.
Yes, that's right even at a young age, sexuality was something to be displayed, exhibited as physical traits, patterns for behavior. The strong physical difference between a cat and a dog was not to be understood as an expression of their distinct genomes; but, rather, it was the expression of their distinct, expressed sexuality. I guess fighting like cats and dogs was just how I understood relationships between couples at the time, and maybe for a long time after, but that's moving away from the point. Point is: sexuality is a definite part of an individual's identity.
If you're Mormon go read the Proclamation on the Family. It talks about sexuality as a part of the soul, not just a portion of this accursed rock that weighs down our ever-so-lofty spirit for the span of mortality (a statement to be understood facetiously). Actually, at this point, if you're Mormon you should also read the chapter in Judith Butler's Gender Trouble about performativity, maybe chapter four. Anyway, the point is, be who you are in every sense of yourself. Just because you may not be engaging in sexual activity for a given period of your life doesn't mean you should not express your sexuality. Even more importantly, just because you don't have someone banging down your door, asking you to be a sexual being doesn't mean you should hold it in. The sexual energy is a healthy part of your overall energy. For a body to be healthy, all of the energies should be flowing. That's what yoga and chakras are about. But don't just save up your chakras for yoga; let them flow into what you say, into what you think, into what you create, into what you believe. You have healthy intuitions, intuitions that--combined with the wisdom of mistakes--will lead you to accomplish great things, all according to and inline with gospel principles. You are greater when you let yourself be you than when you hold yourself back from acting because it goes against convention.
Sexuality does not mean wearing a certain kind of outfit. It doesn't not mean flirting or speaking in vulgar expressions. Sexuality in its best Freudian sense is pure positive energy, energy that you use to be productive and creative, and, at times, procreative. It is not something you need to hide or to hoard. It is the kind of energy that flows strongest and brightest when it is shared in positive, healthy, principled ways. Only then does it bring happiness, in a relationship or out of a relationship. Imagine that you are a bee. You are a bee and you are gathering lots of pollen. What do you do with this pollen? Well, you feel constrained to take it too the hive and assist in making honey with it. Yet, you are scared that your pollen isn't as good as others' pollen; so, you don't take it. Or, you think, I'm only going to put in the pollen when everyone sees me do it. Even worse, you take the pollen there but because you think you should only be taking in pollen from field flowers are pollinating, you drop off the little bit of pollen you could find, discretely, with shame. Your instincts had told you to gather the abundant pollen from the apple trees, but you felt awkward about it. You only saw the other bees buzzing through the field. It must be wrong to pick up from the orchard. Ah, what an opportunity you missed. You could have given something unique, important, and rich to the mix. Sometimes a regular situation calls for sexual energy just as much as a sexual situation. Sexuality is an intrinsic part of what makes us human. It is the element that combines our sensitivity toward others with our drive for action. In a world where force and structure are all too often the impetus for action sexual energy calls for direct, principled action based on desire, will, love. If anything defines the human experience in mortality in physical terms, it is sexuality and its attendant energy. We are here to use that energy for good. Not just when we are wedded, not just when we're makin' babi's, but right now, in the everyday run of life. When you hold back from being yourself because you are afraid someone will judge you or because you are being selfish and don't want to share yourself (I don't want to waste my energy with this person), you are actually moving away from light and God and you are holding back person-to-person chemical energy,which has as its result negative effects on you, the individual. You're hurting yourself.
The question is, then, of all of the impossible circumstances we can be in, what is more impossible than finding a faithful member of orthodoxy with healthy, expressed sexual energy? Where are the devout cats and dogs? In a world where nearly every sign of sexuality is stigmatized--especially by a socially conceived white-washing code of honor--in such a way as to negatively paint sexuality as a whole and not merely warn against the more garish, pleasure-seeking forms, what chance is there to find a person who acts out his or her sexuality in healthy ways: conversation, confidence, honesty, authenticity. Too frequently, it seems that the relationships and interactions that belong to the proper domain of sexuality slide a slippery, icky slope into games, routines, conceits, and insecure maneuvers based on image, power, and expectations rather than original expressions based in sincerity and love. And though the question is not on sexual activity, is it possible to find a Christian who is faithful as a missionary but not so fixed in the bedroom? Yes, playfulness and creativity can be reconciled with orthodoxy and religion. Lots of people do it every day. It may not be common knowledge simply because sexuality is a sacred enterprise, not something to be touted or sold for world recognition.
In the end, the answer is 'yes, it is possible'--just like landing on the moon or sailing around the world, or creating a dog-cat mix (Thank you Nickelodeon). We must be aware of our weaknesses in order to overcome them in the end. If our weakness tends us toward dogmatism and parochialism, we must strive to keep our minds open, give ourselves room to act. As a person gives himself or herself this room to act on an individual basis, he or she will be happier and more able to allow others room to act as well. We are filled with good desires, and our greatest task--in secular, boiled down terms--is to encourage the good--in others and in oneself--to grow. Call it 'light'. Call it 'Christ'. Call it 'chakras'. Call it 'peace'. If the good is getting bigger, then God can be found. Sex is a part of making that happen.
And now because I know that this is all perhaps a little too Freudian for a number of you, I will state in this postscript that, yes, I know he has been 'disproved' a million times over. You can disprove anyone as much as you want: if he stirred things up as much as he did, he must be good for something. We can have a legitimate debate about that in emails if you wish to send such a reply. To be on the safe side, as far as comments go, I am disabling them.
Maybe what I'm really saying here is assert yourself. Be happy in life by going out and making it happen. Take a stand. Express interest in life and others on all levels: practically and romantically, spiritually and physically.
