Motivating Factors
DeeBy is motivated by being nice. He is supposed to be nice. He is young, twenty.
"Let me help you with that."
"Do you have trouble getting a hold of paper? I have some free reams of paper that the school I am attending was going to throw out. I can get you some."
DeeBy comes across as easy going. He is agreeable. He is too agreeable. If I am telling you that cows are being genetically modified to produce human breast milk and you don't shudder a little big, you are to agreeable.
Do you know what happens to agreeable, nice people? Nothing. Absolutely nothing happens to them. They are eaten up and swallowed for breakfast; then, for lunch; and, finally, for dinner.
What happens when Deeby realizes that he is not agreeable to someone? His confidence is shaken. What's more he has a dip in self-esteem: "I must not be as good a person as I thought I was since I can't make everyone happy all of the time."
In no real world is it worthwhile to set being nice as a major factor of your identity and self-worth. Be nice as a function of your personality, but build the identity on something more rock solid than the capricious airs of your peers.
"Let me help you with that."
"Do you have trouble getting a hold of paper? I have some free reams of paper that the school I am attending was going to throw out. I can get you some."
DeeBy comes across as easy going. He is agreeable. He is too agreeable. If I am telling you that cows are being genetically modified to produce human breast milk and you don't shudder a little big, you are to agreeable.
Do you know what happens to agreeable, nice people? Nothing. Absolutely nothing happens to them. They are eaten up and swallowed for breakfast; then, for lunch; and, finally, for dinner.
What happens when Deeby realizes that he is not agreeable to someone? His confidence is shaken. What's more he has a dip in self-esteem: "I must not be as good a person as I thought I was since I can't make everyone happy all of the time."
In no real world is it worthwhile to set being nice as a major factor of your identity and self-worth. Be nice as a function of your personality, but build the identity on something more rock solid than the capricious airs of your peers.
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